This quote by Erica Jong is so true. Often, when you need advice, or someone wants advice from you, it is because there is resistance to the answer that has already come to you (or them).

Usually, that answer may be driven by a gut feeling, and not rational thought or your hidden hopes about how the situation will unfold. When you try to think things through, either your ‘gut-feeling answer’ does not seem logical based on the facts or how the situation has unfolded to date, or more crucially, that answer is not supporting you in the decision you would really like to make. And so, we look for someone else’s input, in the hope that they will endorse or propose the answer we wanted in the first place!

Although there might be some benefit to asking for advice, it is important to be honest with yourself and try to understand the reason why you think it is necessary to seek someone’s opinion on matters that may not affect them directly. Could it be that you are not confident in your ability to make certain decisions? Or as was said earlier, could it be that you are hoping to receive permission or encouragement to pursue a particular course of action that you really wanted to take?

What is your motivation?

 

 

Best wishes and have a great day!!