We have all experienced it. People in our circle with whom we were once close, but these days, not much not so much. It could be friends, family members, or even lovers. There sometimes comes a point when we realize that the things we had bonded over have changed, and that we no longer have much in common.

That realisation can be painful, as it tends to signal either the end of a relationship, or the end of the current configuration or dynamic of a relationship. However, we as women – being eager to please, not rock the boat, or wanting to maintain the status quo – may try to hold on to the current incarnation of a relationship, although truthfully, it might not be serving us as it had in the past.

What to do? It really depends. For example, it may not be possible and neither might you wish to cut family members out of your life; but there may be ways to adjust the dynamic of a relationship to better acknowledge where you are now. In situations where I have outgrown someone, my biggest fear is the compromise I might need to make, should I choose to maintain the status quo and not be true to myself. The fear of being less. The fear of having to make myself smaller than who I currently am, and undermining my truth.

 

Throughout the day, we invite you to revisit this quote. Below are a few questions you may wish to ask yourself, and those who journal may find them especially useful:

• Is there anyone or any situation as I have a group?
• In what ways have I outgrown that situation or that person?
• Is it possible to transition that situation to better serve me, and allow me to maintain my inner truth?

 

 

Best wishes, and have a great day!