When looking back at the difficult experiences we have had, we cannot always blame “the other person” for our misfortune. We sometimes need to also acknowledge how we contributed to those poor outcomes, and try to identify what flaws or mistakes we may have made.

However, critically examining our behaviour, attitude and actions can be easier said than done, as often we see ourselves only as the sympathetic victim who was taken advantage of by others who meant us harm. Being able to identify your role in a situation – even if it was your ignorance – is something many of us try to avoid.

However, owning up to your role in a situation, or your flaws, is the first step toward change. It can be a giant pill to swallow, as it inherently means that “the other person” is not the only one at fault. We also contributed to the difficult experience and poor outcome. However, by having some insight into our weaknesses, we can begin to figure out how we can become an even better person than we are today.

 

Throughout the day, we invite you to revisit this quote. Below are a few questions you may wish to ask yourself, and those who journal may find them especially useful:

• How willing am I to look at the darkness within me?
• What personal flaws have I recently identified in myself?
• What might be one thing I can do to make myself a better person today than I was yesterday?

 

 

Best wishes and have a great day!