The odds are that none of us have reached adulthood without hurt or disappointment. Depending on the experience or situation, those feelings can be debilitating and have us feeling stuck, unable to get over the situation or the offence done to us, and to move on. When we are bound by painful past experiences, it is unlikely that we will be able to fully live in the present, and properly plan for the future.

Letting go may be easier said than done. Depending on the severity of the issue, expert advice and support, through a therapist or counsellor, might be necessary. There are likely to be a lot of unresolved issues that will need to be addressed, and for which there might never be full closure or a tidy resolution. However, at the end of the day and with expert support (as appropriate), the goal would be to help us make peace with past trauma as best as we can, and to get back to living.

In order to move forward and so continue to live our best lives, we cannot be unduly tethered to past hurt and disappointment. More importantly, we need to be prepared to no longer identify as closely with those experiences, and realise that we are more than just the terrible things that have happened to us.

 

Throughout the day, we invite you to revisit this quote. Below are a few questions you may wish to ask yourself, and those who journal may find them especially useful:

• Are there past hurts that I feel continue to unduly cloud my life and actions even today?
• If yes, how are these past experiences affecting me today?
• Are these experiences too painful for me to delve into on my own?
• Could I benefit from the support of a therapist or counsellor to address those issues?

 

 

Best wishes, and have a great day!